When i was 14 i found out my dad wasn't my real dad. My real dad doesn't want anything to do with me. That can only make you feel like the world is just coming down and attacking you, because nobody wants to know that their mom or dad does not want them. I saw a picture of my dad, he was a little over the average height, pumpkin orange hair, and white skin as pale as a cancer patient. My mom protected me from that raggaty person. Knowing someday that she would have to tell me , but she kept it a secret for my own good. The way she told me was, after school at the begining of the school year. I had gotten a student informatin sheet. It said on there that my step father who I thaught was my real father was my step father. so i called my mom and she broke the news to me when she got home from her college classes.
Fnding this out at 14 was devastating, especially going through football season. Being over shadowed by some players really didn't help me at all. being over shadowed meaning that the coach wouldnt let my try out at the position that I have played all my life(running back) , and there was this one player that the coach thought was the best player to come out of kannapolis. He said I just didnt have the stature or the "color" to play that position. Basically he was saying because I was not black I could'nt play what I wanted to play. I have a lot of "friends" that has turned their back on me and who have became haters. But just being able to play football was my own way of giving God the glory for all the bad and all the good that has happened, and because of that he allowed me to start in another postion for the team. Hearing the roaring crowd of excitement filled me with an emotion that words just can't describe.
They say I cant play football or I'm not good at it but when they see me and I say "Do I suck now" they can't say anything. I think that God continues to bless me with this talent because I do give God the glory for all the bad and all the good for the right reasons. They say I definitely will NOT make it pro playing football but I feel like this whole dad thing is motivation and the haters are motivating me to prove them wrong.
I find the whole "dad" experience a sign from God meaning that I one day might have kids of my own and I hope and want to be a way better father to my kids unlike my biological father was never to me. I am from Fayettville and 1/3 of the kids there don't know who their fathers are. But here in Kannapolis I hear kids and teens say my dad forgot to come pick me up and do this and that. What they don't realize and know is, that they are so lucky just to even know their real father; thats my philosophy. Now a days kids that don't know their dads or moms would be a pain to some people or a pain to them selves. I just hope that none of my real friends and no one else has to go through what I have gone through and what I am going through. Mike Minter talked to me about how to give God the glory when things are not right, and how to have hope. What a lot of people don't really know is that faith in God and hope put together is so powerful, and as long as you have hope and believe in the Lord Jesus Christ you can continue to get up for the next fight. Mter told me this motivational saying when i broke my ankle and since then i was able, and still able to this day use that analogy to help through my little bumps in the road, becaues no matter how big or small your problems are none of them are as big as God's love.
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